Stunning these quotes come a paragraph apart in the first 10% of the same book.

Looking back, I spent a lot of my early 20s trying to save relationships that weren’t worth the trouble. I think I knew this at the time-some part of me must have-still, I soldiered on, pushing for a thing that could not be found (or found again, or in the same shape).

There’s a special kind of insensibility that comes to you in your early-young adulthood. It has nothing to do with a lack of intelligence and it’s harmless (until i’s not) and it must be weathered, survived, and grown out of. It comes from not from proven wrong enough or with sufficient repercussions, from stumbling into more triumphs than you’ve had defeats. It’s something you can go far with if you use it well and if others believe in your power as much as you do. This is a glory that is fleeting at best.

Both of these are from This is the End of Something but it’s Not the End of You. I’m not sure I’ve capitalized that right.